Are You a Good Friend?

By Dr Robert Anthony


"She became for me an island of light, fun, wisdom where I could run with my discoveries and torments and hopes at any time of day and find welcome." - May Sarton

Friendship is a balm during difficult times and an added joy in times of celebration. If you are lucky enough to have people in your life who have known you for many years, then you realize that there is a special kind of kinship in being known throughout your life. If your friends know you well, they can validate how you have changed and how, after all these years, you haven't. If you have
permission in your friendships, they can remind you of your hidden talents and encourage you to take the chances you shy away from.

Having a good friend is also about being one. A balanced friendship is seldom 50/50 all the time. Sometimes one person needs more than another for a while and then it switches around.  However, a healthy friendship is not about one person continually being dependent on another.  As you find yourself higher on the Levels of Awareness you may find that your friendships change. The people you were close to in the Victim/Struggle Level are seldom the same
people you want to hang out with when you are in Deliberate Creation.

Notice today how you are a good friend. Are there ways that you could be an even better friend? That might be an interesting conversation to share with a friend you care about.

"There's a special kind of freedom friends enjoy. Freedom to share innermost thoughts, to ask a favor, to show their true feelings. The freedom to simply be themselves." - Unknown

Books:

The Secret of Frienship (The Wizard of the Magic Road)

How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship

Who Decides Your Limits?

'All of us do not have equal talent, but all of us should have an equal opportunity to develop our talents.'  - John F. Kennedy

We all have talents. Some people are more talented than others, but each of us have talents unique to us. 

Yet many of us don’t even know what talents we have. Bullies or jealous peers may have made comments putting us down. Well meaning (or not so well meaning) adults may have told us to “be realistic” and that what you’re dreaming is “impossible.” 

Who decides what you can or cannot do? Who decides your abilities, your limits?
Who is right? Who is wrong? Can anyone see all of your potential?

Discard the beliefs that others have convinced you of. They do not know what you can and cannot do.

If you can dream it, you can do it. You won’t have a strong desire to do anything that you are not able to do. Everything you need to succeed is already within you.

Reach out and take old of your dream today. Decide to go for it. Go ahead, be all you can be.

Books:

Achieve Your Unlimited Potential And Create Boundless Possibilities

Who are you listening to?

“The only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on. It is never of any use to oneself.”  Oscar Wilde

“No one really listens to anyone else, and if you try it for a while you'll see why.” Mignon McLaughlin

Doesn't it seem like everywhere you turn someone is trying to tell you what to do with your problems or challenges...whether they know what they're talking about or not?  The danger is when you start to listen to it.  You'll usually find that your advisor or critics rarely, if ever, follow their own advice. 

Who are you listening to? Do you take advice and criticism from people who have no business giving it out?  Is it usually helpful?

More often than not though, critics have other agendas.  And they couldn't take their own advice if their lives depended on it. The problem with hearing unwanted or unwarranted criticism is that it usually isn't put in a constructive way.

When I was failing at sales, everyone had advice.  The trouble was, the people giving it were the furthest thing from professionals. 

Now don't get me wrong:  Criticism delivered properly from someone who has done what you’re trying to do is healthy, correcting feedback if you want to learn from them. Someone like a mentor. 

So here are two suggestions:

Don't give advice.  People don't want it.  They don't use it.  And they'll get sick of hearing it.  If you must, be a sounding board instead. When people hear themselves out loud, they often get the answer they were looking for without outside advice.  It's hard enough to change yourself, changing others is impossible.

And don't let critics ruin your mood.  Not even for a minute.  If someone comes along and gives you “advice” and you find yourself feeling powerless, make a mental note not to let yourself get into the same position of having to listen to unsolicited “advice” again. 

Listen to yourself and to people who have overcome the same challenges that you're facing.  That's it.  Talk to friends about your challenges, but unless they've overcome the same thing, be very careful about taking their suggestions. 

It could be very costly to your emotional, physical and financial health.

Books


100 Ways to Motivate Yourself: Change Your Life Forever 

How To Change Yourself (A Man's Guide To Inner Change, Reaching Goals, And Making Things Happen)

There are two ways of being rich...

"There are two ways of being rich. One is to have all you want, the other is to be satisfied with what you have." - Unknown

How easy is it for you to really feel satisfied?  Look around you right now and notice your surroundings. Do you like what you see or do you see what you don't like?

How do you feel about yourself right now? Can you truly appreciate yourself today, still knowing there may be aspects you would like to improve?

The higher you live on the Levels of Awareness, the more likely you are to feel satisfied. That's true because the more aware and capable of making good choices you are, the less you are caught in struggle.  The higher on the Levels of Awareness you live, the richer you are likely to feel, not only in terms of finances, but also in terms of personal satisfaction.

Being satisfied is an inside job. No amount of money or material good can give you the inner feeling of satisfaction. We are not taught to be satisfied.  We are taught and trained by the media to want more.

Today don't chase satisfaction. Sit still for a moment and let it bubble up from inside you, like an underground stream.

Books:


Dr Robert Anthonys Advanced Formula For Total Success
 
Beyond Positive Thinking: A No-Nonsense Formula for Getting the Results You Want


The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence (Revised)

Laughter is and Instant Vacation

By Dr Robert Anthony
 
"Laughter is an instant vacation!" - Milton Berle

When was the last time you laughed? I'm not talking about a chuckle or a smirk. I'm talking about a good, hard belly laugh. Remember the last time you laughed until you cried - doesn't just the memory of that feel good?

Some statistics tell us that children laugh 300 times a day, adults only 15. Others say children laugh 146 times a day and adults 4. Whatever the actual numbers are, it's clear that we, as adults, are not having much fun! And I'm willing to bet that many adults aren't
making the statistical average these days - even as low as it is - especially if they listen to the news and get caught up in negative conversations, of which there are plenty to be had if you succumb.

Laughter is good for the soul and the body. Science tells us that laughing has many health benefits, among them the release of endorphins and decreased blood pressure and stress hormones (70% of diseases are stress-related).

But laughing is not something you should do because it's good for you - it's something you should do because it feels good. Actually, it feels great and it provides an instant connection to
the Flow. We know that the Rich Mind Life Strategy course can seem quite serious at times, but recognize that we want you to be light about your life - don't take it so seriously. You can almost always find humor in a situation if you look for it.

What makes you laugh? Rent it, watch it, read it. Who makes you laugh? Call him, meet her for lunch, play with your kids or your pets. Lighten up - feeling better is just a belly laugh away!

Books by Dr Robert Anthony


Dr Robert Anthonys Advanced Formula For Total Success

Beyond Positive Thinking: A No-Nonsense Formula for Getting the Results You Want

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